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Valentina is one of the three women who
appear in the documentary "Aborto sin pena"
to tell their stories of how they procured
abortions in Mexico. To purchase Aborto Sin
Pena, contact Gregory Berger at
Gringoyo@gmail.com.
Valentina es una de las tres mujeres cuyas
historias son relatadas en "Aborto sin pena".
Para comprar "Aborto sin pena", comunÃquese
con Gregory Berger: Gringoyo@gmail.com.
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Valentina's words/Las palabras de Valentina:
My name is Valentina. I am 30. I come from a
Mixtec Indian town. We have our own
traditions, and it feels good. I like where
I'm from. And hopefully, well, maybe my girls
won't speak our language every day, but they
should at least know it. I came [to Mexico
City] thinking, "Wow, I'm going to make
money." I was really excited because the
other girls who came back to our town after
working here said, "Hey, in Mexico City,
there's lots of money!" And I said, "Could
that be true?" I wanted some too, so I said,
"Mom, let me go to Mexico City, I want to
bring home lots of money." Things like that.
But when I got here, I saw that it wasn't
true.
When I got pregnant, I kept working. I worked
until the eighth month. And when my daughter
was five years old, I started seeing my
husband Jose Luis. He asked me to marry him.
He's in the military. He drinks a
little...well, every time he drinks it gets a
little tricky, so, well, were just barely
getting along. That's why we decided just to
have the second baby, the one whose
biological father he is.
I was breastfeeding Sofia, and well, we were
just using condoms, and, well, it wasn't...or
it broke, or something like that. And
actually, ever since we got married, I knew,
I should have had my tubes tied right away
after Sofia was born. But anyway, I was just
thinking of the two I already had. To try to
give them a better life. Maybe I can't do
much, but I can at least try to give them
better food, to dress them better, take care
of them.
AFTER ASKING HELP FROM HER FRIENDS AND SOME
NEIGHBORS, VALENTINA TRIED SEVERAL HOMEMADE
METHODS TO TRY TO INDUCE AN ABORTION.
I got some injections, but nothing happened.
So I went and tried a second time, but hardly
anything. I took two more injections and four
pills, two oral and two vaginal. But just a
teeny drop came out. And then the tea. It was
a gigantic glass, super hot! It was terrible.
Nothing happened! Not with the injections,
not with the tea. The massage I got--ooh. I
think it was with a blanket or a sheet. They
put it here, and picked me up. It was so
painful. And they tell me, "With this, it
will come out."
First they did it lying facing up, they
picked me up, forcefully, and something gave,
I don't know where. And then again, facing
down. And, ay, it hurt up into my head, and
well, nothing. Nothing.
FEELING DESPERATE, AN ACQUAINTANCE OF
VALENTINA RECOMMENDED A CLINIC.
I am so happy that I found a place that
didn't give me any trouble and that didn't
abuse me. I got there, and it was so nice
they treated me so well. I saw the doctor,
who said to me, and I remember the exact
words: "Señora Valentina, how can we help
you?" And I explained, "Doctor, I have this
problem, and I want you to help me. Please."
And that was it. It was all beautiful. He
explained everything, in great detail, and
helped me with all of my fears and doubts.
There was even a psychologist there, who
explained to me everything I needed or wanted
to know, and they let me explain what I felt,
or what I wanted.
People had told me things that werent true
and all, but this place was marvelous because
they took care of my doubts. I hope that this
keeps growing or that there were more places
like this. I'll say it again. I have my
cousins and sisters, one is a single mother
who had to have a baby she didn't want
because she couldn't find a good place.
I feel free. Happy. To go on with my life.
And guilt? I dont feel it, because if I wasnt
sure about what I wanted to do in the first
place, I wouldnt have done it, just to feel
bad later on, or have regrets. But no, my
decision was made, and now I feel happy.
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